Good lord she's relentless isn't she???
In my last post we talked about how to tell if it's your Inner Mean Girl, aka Fear & Doubt, or your Reality Ally raising a ruckus in your head. So you've determined that it's really IMG. I'm so sorry. I was hoping you were the 1 in 800,000 that doesn't have an IMG living in her head.
You're not really going to let her get the best of you are you? You need some weapons for your arsenal. I'm going to hand over some of my favorite ones. Use them all and use them frequently. Use them until they become habit.
IMG is an invisible bully. She hates the light of day, she hates friends, and she hates action. Now that we know that, here's what we're going to do:
Out her. Write down all the things she says in a pretty journal with a pretty colored pen. Read it. It's amazing how non-threating "you don't know enough about non-profits" looks when it's written in pink pen on pretty paper.
- Out her again. Be a tattle tale. Tell a close friend or your spouse what she said. Send me an e-mail. Again, uou won't believe how ridiculous "I've only run four 1/2 marathons, I've never run a full marathon" sounds when you say it out loud. Your spouse might roll their eyes first but then they'll tell you the real truth. They can't help us if we don't tell them the problem.
- Play the What If game. Write down all the 'what-if's' and play them through. What if people think my business won't work? Ummm...what if they think it will work? And okay, maybe some will think it won't but isn't that just useful information? Information about what people want or don't want, or who you want or don't want as your customer? But what if I don't like it? All this work went for nothing. If you don't like it then don't do it anymore. And nothing? Nothing except you just used your life as a science experiment and learned what works for you and what doesn't. And hopefully you inspired a few people along the way.
- Start. Remember your challenge from last week? You have to take action. Big or small, some kind of action. The more action you take the quieter the voices will get and the more you will want to take action. START.
- Or, you can kick her in the throat like my friend Lucrecer Braxton does:)
Easy right? :)
So here's your next challenge. Take a few minutes to think about what you really want to do and what your next step is (you took your first step last week right?). When IMG shows up, write down everything she says. If you're feeling really brave, expose her here in comments or send me an e-mail and let me know what she says. You know we've got your back, we'll tell you the real truth.
With courage and kindness,