The surprising reason you haven't got your dream off the ground - and here's why you will

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How many times in your lifetime have you heard "Dream big" or "Go big or go home"? 

A lot?  Yea, me too.  I may even be guilty of encouraging a few you to do just that.

Are you by nature a Big Dreamer?

How many of your big dreams have you acted on?  Yea, me too:(

Here's why...

The 5 step path that starts at inspiration and ends in demise:

1.  Inspiration hits - Inspiration is defined as "stimulation or arousal of the mind, feelings, etc., to special or unusual activity or creativity".  Your frustration with your crappy Christmas card photos gives you the idea to take a photography class, inspiration hits and next thing you know you've got big plans for becoming a photographer for women's mountain biking retreats all in one fell swoop.  Awesome big dream by the way:)

2.  Excitement - The inspiration from Step 1 has now fired up your creativity.  Let the brainstorming commence.  You can picture the outcome, the travel, the camaraderie, your pictures known to inspire women mountain bikers everywhere. This is the really fun part, ideas are coming fast and furious (are you writing them down?).  Something in your idea has connected with you - the community building, the artistic opportunities, the chance to learn something new, or maybe just the idea of being outside with like-minded women.  At this point it's hard to single out what exactly it is that's hit a nerve but pay attention, this will be a big clue for future dreams and endeavors.

3.  Fear and reality - This is where things start to go downhill. Say hello to Fear.  She has shown up to remind you to 'play it safe', don't step outside the carefully built walls of your box, you don't know what's beyond those walls and the fear of the unknown is terrifying.  She will remind you that you have a family to take care of and responsibilities, there isn't a lot of time for your dream building.  This is the point in the process where finding your courage is EVERYTHING.

4.  Almost done - The 'how' gets in the way of the 'why', it's all a bit overwhelming. You stood up to your fear and persevered but you can feel your excitement starting to wane.  It's hard to believe that you can conquer the 4,318 steps required to get you from Point A - Point Z.  Suddenly just the small steps seem too big and you realize just how much you think you don't know.

5.  Dream demise - Put that dream on a shelf and try again 'someday' when the kids are grown, you're out of debt, or have lost 15 pounds.  The sad part about this is that the next time you're inspired and excited about something your mind will replay this experience and remind you how unqualified you are to take it on.

You weren't dreaming too big, you just skipped right from idea to outcome and forgot about execution.  The good news is that one of the reasons you skipped right to outcome is that this dream resonated with you somehow.  You were digging for gold and you hit a vein:)  Pay attention.

I believe that dreaming big is an amazing gift and should always be encouraged.  It sparks creativity, it give us passion, it pushes our limits, and it inspires us to be brave and vulnerable.  But, ideas are just ideas without execution.

Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world. ” – Harriet Tubman

There is a solution.

A 6-week series on how to position yourself for success. Let's get those dreams off the shelf and make 2014 the year of YOU.

Take a few minutes today to take your dream from small to big, see where your heart takes you<3

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With courage and kindness,